A Fallen Woman

I have fallen from grace, a fallen woman.
Fallen through the cracks, through the net there to save me.
I moved across the country to be here, where I knew no one. I fall.
“You are away from your abuser. Now carry on with your life”. I fall.
I brought up my children, they live their own lives. Independent, a credit to me. I fall.
After decades of abuse, I slip through the net. I fall.
Alone, exhausted, though not a victim. No, I am a survivor. Yet I fall.
“ You don't have young children, we can't help you”. I fall.
“ You're not on income support, we can't help you”. I fall.
“There are domestic abuse support groups”. They traumatise me more. I fall.
I am an older woman, invisible. I fall again, this time I am caught and held.
I am listened to and heard. I am held.
I open my eyes, I am held.
I look around and can see a way forward. I am held.
I am unsteady on my feet, I am held.
I take steps. I am held.
The path is lined with understanding, encouragement, support. I am held.
I feel calm, self-reliant, purpose, laughter, confidence. I am held.
I am valued. I walk. I am held.
I met people who are now friends. I can hold and am held.
I was a fallen woman, I fell through the net. Thank you We are Aware, I am held.
One woman dies every three days at the hands of their abuser or ex abuser in the UK. It wasn't until 2017
that women aged sixty to seventy four were included in the statistics. Women of every age should be
included.
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by
Anonymous II
My goodness!
What a radical and wonderful idea
Now you've put it like that, suddenly it's oh so clear!
Eureka! I see clearly now
The answer was so simple
The stars have suddenly aligned
And now begin to twinkle!
With no weight upon my shoulders
I am floating like a feather
Now I've taken your sage advice
And pulled myself together....
A girl so sick of being tired
of holding it together
began to build a fortress
to withstand the cruelest weather
the plans were drawn, the bricks were laid
the mortar set to harden
and thorny brambles overtook
her once abundant garden
Every guest had been rejected
and been banished from her door
and ships that passed too closely
all laid wrecked upon the shore
all invitations had been shredded
or were stamped "return to sender"
and knuckles bruised from knocking
on a door marked "do not enter"
The fortress stood for many years
never to crumble or give in
a symbol of protection for the little girl within
until the hurt began to fade and clearer was her vision
the child inside discovered she had built herself a prison
She stepped outside the fortress
to wander and explore
and found the sunlight hurt her cheeks
and her feet a little sore
she found the courage to walk on
to trust and feel again
and find some others walking similar terrain
she felt thankful for their company
and hopefully concluded
that perhaps there was a place for her
amongst the walking wounded
A place of understanding, where others felt the same
a place she saw no judgement when she called her beast by name
where she could roar and show her scars
and be met with love and care
where people give a knowing glance and whisper
"we are aware"
Some days her cheeks still blister when the sunshine burns too bright
and the fortress seems to beckon
when the demons come at night
yet here she stands amongst the rubble
of a fortress built from pride
no longer a lost and lonely child
for now she's found her tribe